Your body is not a war zone. It is a monument.
I can’t lie, out of all of the YouTubers I watched as a teen, I still like Meghan Tonjes but she seems to be all buddy buddy with shitty ppl like John Green and Tyler Oakley, so has she done problematic things?
I’m friends with a lot of people. All of them have said or done problematic things publicly or privately because they are human beings. We fuck up. It’s in our nature. I fuck up daily, sometimes in ways I don’t see as fuck ups because my truth, my experience and my understanding are limited. Ive only had positive interactions with John Green and Tyler Oakley, two people who have always been incredibly supportive and loving to me. It’s hard to label people as “shitty people”. It’s subjective. Conflates who people intrinsically are with what we publicly interpret them to be, without personal knowledge of those actual people. We can disagree with each other’s work, methods of expression. We can critique that work, talk about why it’s problematic, why we take issue with it, what we think it says in the greater narrative. But, to label people who are working in a public sphere, who are charitable and work to make themselves better people as well as the lives of strangers as “shitty people”…it’s a tough one.
Within all of our most intimate thoughts, writings, recordings, conversations we are all problematic and we should show the same kindness, respect and eagerness to teach and help to others as we would want ourselves.